Just in time for Easter! I try and try to teach my children basic manners. That's present tense because it's an ongoing process. They act like they don't know because they don't use their manners every day, at least not with their family, but I hope one day it appears out of the blue as an innate nature. I'm sure they'll use out one day to impress people other then immediate family.
This blog actually serves as a reminder for me. I've gotten off track of table settings lately. These days, with a tween and a teen, I'm focusing on reinforcing closed mouth burps, silent chewing (unless it's chips or something like that,) and the avoidance of talks about bodily functions at the table unless absolutely necessary.
Teaching children how to set tables is a part of Montessori education. I utilized a lot of ideas from Maria Montessori when my children were younger.
While I am preparing dinner, I have my children place the utensils and napkins at the table. I serve on the plates from the kitchen island.
They haven't memorized the place settings, but at the minimum, they do know to start using utensils from the outside in and that a salad fork should be different than a dinner fork. Of course the occasions to practice this are few and far in between, but I'm always impressed when they remember.
I would suggest printing out a diagram and framing it in a cheap frame to keep it near the kitchen table as a quick reference.